専業主婦はつらい仕事!兼業主婦との比較をしてみた

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周囲からの「専業主婦って楽でいいよね?」「専業主婦ってニートみたいなものでしょ」

という心ない言葉に、傷ついていませんか?

 

一方で兼業としてパートなどで働けば

「子どもを犠牲にしているよね」「仕事も家庭も中途半端になってない?」

という無理解な言葉が飛んできます。

 

専業主婦も兼業主婦も、大変なのはどちらも一緒。

ただ質が違うだけです。

 

今回は専業主婦の大変さにスポットを当てつつ兼業主婦との違いにクローズアップしてみました。

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専業主婦はつらく大変な総合職である

専業主婦を揶揄する言葉に「三食昼寝つき」がありますが、本当のところは昼寝をするヒマもないほどやることがあります。

 

専業主婦の仕事内容といえば…

◎いつまでも終わりが見えない家事
◎家計管理
◎家族の健康管理
◎全責任を感じてしまうワンオペ育児
◎園や学校のPTA活動
◎ママ友つきあい
◎町内会の役員やつきあい
◎病人が出れば看護や介護
etc.

これはもう総合職といっていい忙しさではないでしょうか?

 

しかもこれらのうちいくつかは常に同時進行。

マルチタスクの最たる職業こそが、専業主婦かもしれません。

さらに365日休みはなし。ブラック企業も真っ青です。

専業主婦がつらい理由4選

*内部リンク
専業主婦のメリット・デメリットの記事でお伝えしたデメリット=つらい理由が
次の4つです。

①自由になるお金がない・使いづらい
②家事・育児に完璧を求め(られ)てしまう
③存在価値がないように感じる
④夫と離別や死別した場合、生活に困る

調査などによると専業主婦は生活を幸せと感じる幸福度が高いとされています。

それでいながら自己肯定感が低いのも専業主婦の特徴です。

 

そもそも専業主婦は職業なのか?という問題や

専業主婦には生産性がないという社会の論調がその背景にはあります。

専業主婦と兼業主婦の比較

ここからは専業主婦と兼業主婦がそれぞれお互いに抱いているイメージを比較してみます。(なおこの比較は優劣を決めるものではありません)

専業主婦がうらやましい理由

兼業主婦が専業主婦に対してうらやましいと思うことは次の4つです。

①働かなくても生活できる
②育児に専念できる
③時間に追われなくていい
④ストレスが少ない

仕事と家事の両立に苦労している兼業主婦からは、専業主婦の生活はラクに見えるようです。

しかし実際は、マルチタスクの日々なのでラクではないのです。

兼業主婦がうらやましい理由

では逆に専業主婦は兼業主婦にかんじているうらやましさ4つを見てみましょう。

①経済的に自立している、自由にお金を使える
②育児の全責任を負わなくていい(保育園で教育してもらえる)
③社会との接点がある
④夫に万が一のことがあっても(離別や死別)生活力がある

専業主婦が兼業主婦に感じるうらやましさはやはり経済力があるということ。

 

少し前には「専業主婦と兼業主婦の生涯賃金には2億円もの差が出る」という本も
話題になりました。

しかし兼業主婦の皆さんからすれば稼いだお金は住宅や教育のために使われるもので自分の自由になるお金ではないという意見も。

専業主婦も兼業主婦も大変さはパートナーの理解と協力次第

さてここでひとつの記事を紹介します。

タイトルは「兼業主婦と専業主婦とどっちが大変だった?両方経験してわかった事実」、兼業・専業の両方を体験した主婦の経験談です。

今回の記事でもお伝えしているようにどちらもそれぞれの大変さがあったと語られています。

 

残念ながら記事の筆者の旦那さんはあまり協力的ではなかったようですが

専業主婦と兼業主婦、どちらにも欠かせないのがパートナーの理解と協力です。

 

イクメン、家事分担などといいますが妻の状況を判断して

自ら動いてくれる男性はどれくらいいるのでしょうか?

 

実際に家事や育児にかかわれない場合でも

妻への感謝やねぎらいの言葉を伝えている男性は?

 

専業主婦も兼業主婦もいちばん身近な人の理解と協力がなければ

日々がつらくなるばかりですよね。

「専業主婦はつらい仕事!兼業主婦との比較をしてみた」まとめ

比較してみたところ専業主婦も兼業主婦もどちらも大変でした。「隣の芝生は青く見える」ということかもしれませんね。

 

どちらの生き方を選ぶかは自分が決めること。そしてその決断を支えてくれるパートナーの理解と協力があること。これに尽きます。

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